The fight underneath the fight.

You had a fight about the dishes. Or the credit card bill. Or the in-laws. You both walked out frustrated by something else entirely, and you couldn't quite name what.

 

This is the most common failure mode in close relationships. The thing you're upset about is rarely the whole thing you're upset about, and the thing underneath almost never gets called out by name.

 

This 12-page guide is a primer on what's underneath, and how to investigate it. It covers the four patterns that show up in conversations that come apart, the one move that distinguishes couples who repair from couples who drift, what to do when a conversation has gone physiologically sideways, and one specific question to take with you into your next hard conversation.

 

It draws on a few decades of relationship research, mostly from John and Julie Gottman's work, and the practical thinking we're doing at Better Half on the conversations people keep replaying.

 

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